Everything is a Problem

Have you ever said or thought "Everything is a Problem".
I think that there is always a solution for every problem.  Sometimes it only takes rethinking the situation to realize it is not a problem.   Work is not what you thought it would be; you can feel stuck, as though in a rut with no where to go but out.  Maybe you realize your career is based on someone else's dream. Maybe you are not where you want to be financially. Or, maybe you finally understand that you don't have what it takes for this career choice, but you can have IT for what you really want to do!   This does sound like everything is a problem.

Well let's add being a member of a dysfunctional family; then there are issues of friends - the ones who you think fail you;  the folks who you get very angry with and only you can understand your anger;  then of course there is that messy word called "forgiveness" - it's the thing you don't want to give even to yourself. 

Well, hmm problems…

Life Can Hurt

You expect when you do wrong that there are hurtful consequences.
But life can hurt when you do all the right things as well.
So what do you do when the hurt is as a result of the right that you've done?
Well I tried reciting all those good phrases
And it did not help I prayed but the hurt was still there
So what do you really do? I went into myself (my spirit),
I evaluated my hurt (What was causing this? How can I stop this?)
I realized my hurt was being fueled by a thought?
I understood that I can only remove this thought with another. I got my victory! It did not take a few hours, days or even months
As I continued using the principle of intentionally controlling my thoughts
The hurts took less time to get over. Please share your thoughts and comments. I promise to respond.Stay Blessed, Stay Focused
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Who are you?

If asked to give five (5) words about myself I would say: Caring, Loving, Giving, Helpful and Humble. But then, if you are unable to see me caring and loving myself; or giving and being helpful to myself and not forgetting being humble then I need to take a good look at perception vs truth.

How we see ourselves can be very different to the way others see us.  My actions can sometimes make my option of myself appear to be a lie.  While it is easy and almost second nature to care for others, love and give assistance, help and exhibit some form of humility, these actions on many occasions are not reflected to myself.

For 2018 I would like to be a real version of who I think I am.  It is ok to look within and find the faults that we sometimes wish to hide.  It is even better when we have the opportunity of life to make desired changes to ourselves which will make those around us feel happy by our personal fulfillment and success.  I have been described as an entrepreneur, a teacher, some…

Sustainability vs Change

This is a new year.  There is newness in change, however, Can there be sustainability in change?  Firstly, something needs to happened before it can be sustained.  Then, we really need to understand what we want to sustain from change for it to matter in our lives.

If I take note of what is repeated constantly over my life and I check the order in which I do it, maybe I can produce sustainability in my changes?  Or maybe not.  Having a sequence or continuous flow does not make something sustainable. Sustainability can only be of value when a pinnacle of growth is realized or attained.  That is, if we want to receive a million dollars at he end of the year and changes at the beginning of the year prove to make the million dollars available at the end does it mean, I wish for that million dollars to be sustained?  Rather, it is quite likely that goal may change to two million dollars.  What we wish to sustain is based on desirable outcome which can be changed at any point in time.  Ha H…

The Joy In Goal Setting

Have you set any goals for 2018? I have recorded a whole set of goals for myself.  Goals are achievable when plans are put in place.

Do you know what actions are require for your goals to be realized?  Plans require predetermined actions.  Our actions will result in moving goals into our own reality.

Who are you accountable to if your goals are not realized? Who will be celebrating your victories when you win?  Actions are mostly done when accountability is put in place.

Moving from a thought to a clear purpose takes a lot of work which we are sometimes not ready for.  When setting goals its important to be realistic and understanding of your own capabilities and desire for accomplishment.  Acceptance of the goals has everything to do with the journey.

My journey in the birthing of my company "Training Anchor" was more enjoyable than obtaining the realization of the goal "Training Anchor".

Please share your thoughts and comments. I promise to respond.Stay Blessed, St…

Is It Possible To Change Someone?

No one has the power to change someone.  The ability for change from a human perspective is within all of us. It is a myth that one person can change the thinking of another based on social and cultural norms. In reality the power of influence can be given credit for changing the position of another. In relationships there is a need for acceptance, love and to be needed. Sometimes this desire for emotional connection can push an individual to accept "God complex behavior".  We are not, nor can we ever be, God to someone!  As sated above the power to change must come from within the individual. I tried to change someone I cared about and it did not work.  My persistent efforts did not work because the individual did not have a desire to change in the way I wanted.  When the individual did not change as I wished, I felt sick within because I did not get my way. That was selfish.   A friend told me "Don't mistake myself for God in anyone's life". I got the me…

Leadership - Owning It

I believe leadership is “influence”, nothing more and nothing less.  Everyone possesses leadership abilities which is the limit that decides a person’s level of effectiveness.
It is my belief, leadership can be taught, which will result in more people choosing to follow you as an individual.
As we enter into a position of authority (leadership), it is important that we realize, people’s lives should be improved by our leadership.
Here are some things we can practice to bring our leadership ability to an excellent level: ·Empowering others – excellent leadership is not about seeking your elevation only but it’s about empowering or uplifting others.  The main reason for not being able to fulfill this; is insecurity or the fear of losing what we already have.·Gaining respect– I was taught gaining respect follows a pattern:  when you are respected as a person – people admire you; when you are respected as a friend – people love you and when you are respected as a leader – people choose to fo…